Entries Tagged as 'Lessons I’ve learned'

Lucky Andi Archives: Digital Detox

Posted on: Thursday, February 25, 2016

Confession: I’m a little too addicted to my phone. I end up checking Instagram or Snapchat or any other random apps when I’m bored – on the bus, before bed, whenever. It’s gotten to be second nature to be constantly connected and I need to take a step back. My good friend {who has WAY more self-control than I do!} recently deleted Instagram & FB from her phone as a way to read more and not be so glued to her phone. So amazing, right? I need to take a little digital detox from the whole world of social media – it’s amazing, but it’s addictive and it’s important to not let it consume so much of my time / life!

I wanted to re-share a blog post I wrote in September 2011 {over four years ago…WHAT?!} about turning off your phone and focusing on the beautiful and exciting world around us. Rather than capturing and documenting and sharing every single moment of life, what if we just simply enjoyed and lived in that moment? That’s something I need to work on, for sure. The blog post was called TURN OFF YOUR PHONE and is copied below.

Hope this #throwback blog post is a good reminder for you to check in on your digital media habits & think about taking a mini break if you need it like I do! xo

I live in a digital world. Seriously, my job completely revolves around Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and other social media networks. When I’m not working, I’m blogging. When I’m not blogging, I’m networking. I have like four email addresses. Two computers. One cell phone. About five computer and phone chargers to ensure I never miss a beat or update. I spend a majority of my time glued to a screen – whether it’s my laptop, PC, iPhone or iPod. I often times feel like I’m living within the walls of technology. Going without it? A struggle.

As a young 20-something new to the West Coast and the working world, I’ve been taught and trained that being online is the way to be. I do everything online – pay my bills, chat with friends, read the news, finish books, start books, communicate, interact, live. I’ve been “raised” in this culture that to get ahead you need to always, always, always be catching the latest update, following the right people, viewing the right content, tweeting and posting the best articles.

This week, I was reminded enough is enough. I’ll admit it – I love the social and digital space, but it’s important to not over prioritize these gadgets we have and these online networks we live in. People (myself included) get trapped in spending more time building a LinkedIn, Google+, Twitter, StumbleUpon, Facebook, YouTube, Flickr, Reddit, [insert social media site here] profile than they do actually building who they are. I’m talking who I am as a person, not who I am as @luckyandi or andi91210 or “Andi.Teggart” or “Search: Andi Teggart.” Maybe if I spent half the time I spend online actually OFFLINE, I could really enjoy life, soak up life, LIVE life.

I’m always documenting my life – through tweets, Instagram photos, Facebook status updates, blog posts – but what if I put down my phone and closed my computer and simply lived life? Some of the happiest people I know who really “get” life are the ones who don’t come near to technology. My grandpa doesn’t have the slightest clue what Twitter or blogging is – but he truly understands personal interactions, relationships and experiences. He would sit down and get coffee with you whether you had 35,000 Twitter followers or 10. Or zero. Rather than take a photo of what he’s eating for dinner, he enjoys dinner and company. Rather than constantly check his cell phone to make sure he’s not missing a status update, he is using his phone to call his grandchildren on the phone.

This weekend, I urge you to put your phones away and close your computers. Twitter, Facebook, your Inbox and every other site you are constantly stalking and obsessing over will be there when you get back on Monday. I’m not telling you to completely quit on social media – it’s fun to be online, it’s smart to be online, it’s actually vital to be online in this day and age. What I’m urging you to do is to not let your phone and computer dictate the way you go about living life.

Don’t allow this online world to rule the beautiful, glorious, exciting, simple, dazzling adventurous physical world we live in.

This weekend, instead of counting Twitter followers and Facebook notifications, I’ll be counting the number of times I laugh out loud. I’ll be measuring my “success” not on how many new LinkedIn connections I have, but how many hours I spend enjoying the warm weather with good friends. I’ll be monitoring what is going on in my friends life by talking to them in person (or giving them a call! Hint: different than texting) or writing them a letter. I’ll be reading a book instead of scrolling down a screen. I’ll be building and strengthening who I am as me – regular, plain, real-life me – instead of maximizing and building out the “online” me. This weekend, instead of staying up-to-date at every second, I’ll stay balanced and at peace every second.

Original blog post HERE // Photo by Art Chang

3 Lessons I’ve Learned While Wedding Planning

Posted on: Monday, August 10, 2015

Lessons Learned While Wedding Planning

Nope, this post is not about how to have the most epic, organized Excel doc of guest lists or how to make amazing place settings. Instead, it’s about a few lessons I’ve learned – about myself and about marriage – while planning a wedding. The lessons are an a-ha moment, an I-should-have-learned-this-earlier-but-didn’t moment and most certainly “you-definitely-won’t-read-this-in-a-wedding-magazine” type of advice {or at least I haven’t read it in one yet!}. Keep in mind, these three life lessons aren’t just for those who are engaged. These are lessons that relate to our larger life experience outside of getting married, but for some reason or another, they really hit me during the wedding planning process. Hopefully they are a small reminder to you, no matter where you’re at in life!

ONE You are more than your body. Body image – major ugh, right?! Some people view the wedding as a countdown to get the #BESTBODYEVER and tone up, slim down or whatever to look absolutely flawless. And of course, I want to look good on our big day too! As someone who has felt insecure with my body for way too long, it’s been incredibly freeing to take a step back and remember I am more than my body. My worth doesn’t come from the size of my hips or how toned my arms are or whether or not I have a six pack {in case you were wondering, I definitely don’t}. My body is beautiful the way it is and should be celebrated and appreciated, not scrutinized and shamed. Of course, it’s important to feed, nourish and challenge your body, which can happen leading up to a wedding or absolutely any other time in life. Working out is something I do to feel better physically, emotionally and mentally. BUT! I’ve been reminded to accept and love my imperfectly perfect body the way it is. I refuse to spend the last few weeks before the wedding feeling less-than-good-enough and living out of a “I must go to the gym to look perfect!!!” mindset.

TWO Stop comparing. It’s easy to get stuck in the comparison trap in everyday life – looking at other people’s perfect jobs or perfect living rooms or perfect travels. Wedding planning can be an incredibly slippery slope in terms of comparison. I love apps like Pinterest and Instagram, but it’s so easy to take those beautifully curated images as reality all of the time. Everything looks so perfect and if you’re not careful, you can view images you see online or in magazines and make that your standard of success, perfection and happiness. Even going to other people’s weddings {I’ve been to five this year so far!} can be an easy opportunity to compare someone else’s big day to the one we’re planning. I’ve learned, slowly and not-so-gracefully, that it’s important to make your own decisions and be happy and content with those decisions. Comparing with other people’s weddings or images from magazines or social media is not only a waste of time, but it also takes away your joy, leaving you unfulfilled and upset.

THREE Remembering what really matters. In the case of wedding planning, it’s so easy to get caught up in this one very special day and get stressed, overwhelmed or worked up about how every single thing will go every single second of the day. What’s been so important for me to tell myself over and over and over is that it’s NOT ABOUT THAT DAY. It’s not about the stunning dress or napkin colors or playlists or food choices or having fun or coordinating tuxedos. While those things are lovely {okay, seriously – napkin colors?!?! That is one wedding decision that is just annoying.}, they aren’t what getting married is about.  It’s about a promise, commitment and the future. The wedding is a fancy, fun and beautiful way to celebrate that. When I feel caught up in the details, I try to take a step back and remember what we want our wedding to be – two words we chose to define our wedding vibe right after we were engaged – authentic and joyful.  That feeling that people have – and that WE have day-of the wedding –  is infinitely more important than color schemes and flower bouquets.

{photo via cindy loughridge}

xo

45 life lessons

Posted on: Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Regina Brett Life Lessons
  1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
  3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
  4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
  6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
  8. Save for retirement, starting with your first paycheck.
  9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
  10. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
  11. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
  12. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
  14. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
  15. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
  16. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
  17. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
  18. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
  19. Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
  20. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
  21. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
  22. The most important sex organ is the brain.
  23. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
  25. Forgive everyone everything.
  26. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  27. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
  28. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
  29. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
  30. Believe in miracles.
  31. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
  32. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
  33. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
  34. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
  35. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
  36. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
  37. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
  38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
  39. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  40. The best is yet to come.
  41. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
  42. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
  43. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
  44. Yield.
  45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

By Regina Brett, list found via PopSugar

what really matters

Posted on: Monday, April 13, 2015

Encouraging cards

it’s so easy to get caught up. i think it happens to everyone, everywhere, but i’ve noticed how difficult it is especially for me in a city like san francisco to get so sidetracked and consumed by the wrong things. this past month, i’ve had several eye-opening moments of clarity that reminded me: this is it. every day only has so many hours and by spending time investing in things that don’t matter, jobs that aren’t satisfying, relationships that aren’t loving and nurturing, means that we are really missing out on what matters. i know for sure that the way we often measure ourselves: our weight, our blog post views and instagram followers, our job title, what others think of us…absolutely does not matter.

so what really matters to me? here’s a few:

relationships; people that love me, care about me, encourage and uplift me, challenge me and help me grow. and the opportunity to do the exact same thing for them.

encouragement and support and telling people why they are important {reminder in the photo above from my amazing & talented friend renee}.

adventure and travel and exploring.

truth-telling, authenticity

living out of my life goals and personal definition of success {some of them listed above}: to help other people discover and maximize their potential, to radiate unconditional love – to everyone, everyday, to live out God-given joy, to be the best person I can be right where I’m at right now.

i’m thankful it’s a brand new week and i’m starting it by making a really conscious effort to focus on things that DO matter to me, rather than being consumed by the other stuff. i hope you do the same!

Image via @luckyandi

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