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present over perfect this holiday season

Posted on: Wednesday, December 7, 2016

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My mantra for this month and holiday season is present over perfect. If you know me at all, you know I’ve always connected with the lovely, powerful words from Shauna Niequist. She’s my favorite author and sort of like my patron saint – it seems like every time I read something she’s written, it just hits me. Yes, yes, yes. Needed those words and that reminder. Anyway, she often writes about this whole ‘present over perfect’ thing and the power of being being here, right now, over striving for perfection. Today, I wanted to share a few excerpts from some of her books about what present over perfect means and how we can apply it to our lives. For me, this is extra important over the holidays, because it’s definitely a time where it’s easy to get caught up in the buy more! do more! plan more! accomplish more! bake more! whatever else more! cycle.

We threw a little gathering last weekend and before and during, I kept reminding myself – present over perfect. It’s okay that the apartment isn’t perfectly cleaned or the food isn’t perfectly prepared or my outfit isn’t perfectly cute. What matters is being here, with my people, together. And that’s the mantra and mentality I want to take with me throughout the month and holiday season and beyond. Hope these words speak to you and remind you to live presently and intentionally. xo!

“Let’s be courageous in these days. Let’s choose love and rest and grace. Let’s use our minutes and hours to create memories with the people we love instead of dragging them on one more errand or slushing them while we accomplish one more seemingly necessary thing. Let’s honor the story – the silent night, the angels, the miracle child, the simple birth, which each choice that we make.

My prayer is that we’ll find ourselves drawn closer and closer to the heart of the story, the beautiful, beating heart of it all, that the chaos around us and within us with recede, and the most important things will be clear and lovely at every turn. I pray that we’ll understand the transforming power that lies in saying no, because it’s an act of faith, a tangible demonstration of the belief that you are so much more than what you do. I pray that we’ll live with intention, hope, and love in this wild season and in every season, and that the God who loves us will bring new life to our worn-out heart this year and every year, that we’ll live, truly and deeply in the present, instead of waiting, waiting, waiting for perfect.”

~Shauna Niequist, December 25th devotional from Savor: Living Abundantly Where You Are, As You Are

“Present is living with your feet firmly grounded in reality, pale and uncertain as it may seem. Present is choosing to believe that your own life is worth investing deeply in, instead of waiting for some rare miracle of fairy tale. Present means we understand that the here and now is sacred, sacramental, threaded through with divinity even in its plainness. Especially in its plainness.

Present over perfect living is real over image, connecting over comparing, meaning over mania, depth over artifice. Present over perfect living is the risky and revolutionary belief that the world God has created is beautiful and valuable on its own terms and that it doesn’t need to be zhuzzed up and fancy in order to be wonderful.”

~Shauna Niequist, from Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living

“My intention this season is present over perfect. I determined to add nothing to the to-do list. I abandoned well-intentioned but time-consuming projects. And in their place I’m making rest and space priorities, so that what I offer to my family is more that a brittle mask over a wound-up and depleted soul.

Either I can be here, fully here, my imperfect, messy, tired by wholly present self, or I can miss it – this moment, this conversation, this time around the table, whatever it is – because I’m trying, and failing, to be perfect, to keep the house perfect, make the meal perfect, ensure the gift is perfect. But this season, I’m not trying for perfect. I’m just trying to show up, every time, with honesty and attentiveness.

One thing’s for sure: if you decide to be courageous and sane, if you decide not to overspend or overcommit or over-schedule, the healthy people in your life with respect those choices. And the unhealthy people in your life will freak out, because you’re making a healthy choice they’re not currently free to make. Don’t let that for one second stop you.”

~Shauna Niequist, December 17th devotional from Savor: Living Abundantly Where You Are, As You Are

what i wish i’d known (by nora ephron)

Posted on: Tuesday, November 22, 2016

i recently re-read nora ephron’s honest and witty i feel bad about my neck book and loved the entire thing. part of the book made me truly laugh out loud and i highly recommend reading this book and all of her other gems! nora was also the screenwriter and producer for a bunch of romcoms, like when harry met sally and you’ve got mail (one of my ALL TIME faves). since reading some of her books, i’ve really resonated with her storytelling and mostly her words/life advice like this: “above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim” and “what are you going to do? everything, is my guess. it will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. it will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications. it will not be anything like what you think it will be like, but surprises are good for you. and don’t be frightened: you can always change your mind.” TOTAL QUEEN.

okay anyway, one chapter at the end of this particular book was my very favorite, where she shares “what i wish i’d known.” i wanted to re-share some of my favorites with you today!


WHAT I WISH I’D KNOWN, BY NORA EPHRON
buy, don’t rent.

don’t buy a couch with anything that isn’t more or less beige.

you can’t be friends with people who call after 11pm.

you never know.

the plane is not going to crash.

write everything down.

keep a journal.

take more pictures.

you can order more than one dessert.

you can’t own too many black turtleneck sweaters.

back up your files.

over insure everything.

whenever someone says the words “our friendship is more important than this,” watch out, because it almost never is.

there’s no point in making piecrust from scratch.

the reason you’re waking up in the middle of the night is the second glass of wine.

overtip.

never let them know.

if only one third of your clothes are mistakes, you’re ahead of the game.

there are no secrets.

happy friday & lovely links!

Posted on: Friday, August 12, 2016

Happy FriYAY! I’m in Nashville this weekend, where E and I met up with my parents and sisters for a few days. So happy to be here with them and to be in real summer weather. ;) I haven’t shared a lovely links blog post {all available HERE} in awhile, and wanted to share. Whenever I discover/read a good article, I try to save it on my phone or in a draft email so I can re-read in the future or pass along to a friend. Here’s some of the latest articles I wanted to share with you. Enjoy your weekend, friends!

My awesome friend Kelly and her boyf’s popular Greetings From Tour was recently featured on Conde Nast Traveler! // Follow @greetingstour to see if they are coming to paint an epic mural to YOUR city!

A freelancer’s guide to SF + Oakland // I contributed to this blog post and shared some of my favorite wifi + work spots in SF (more here!)

Our fiddle leaf fig plant is growing! // Here’s some tips & tricks on how to care for a fiddle leaf fig.

Pretty, Affordable Art // Awesome round-up from my friend Cait!

Doesn’t this heirloom tomato and ricotta tart look incredible?

Just bought Present Over Perfect, the just-released book from my fave author Shauna Niequist. CAN’T WAIT to dig in!

Kid Lessons from Dallas Clayton, “bite-sized life lessons to make your life and the lives of those around you better.” // He’s one of my favorite people to follow on Insta @dallasclayton

{Image via Tanja Cappell of Frau Holle Studio}

how to ruin your life

Posted on: Thursday, July 7, 2016

 

We choose a program right out of high school because the proper thing to do is to go straight to University. We choose a job right out of University, even if we didn’t love our program, because we just invested time into it. We go to that job every morning because we feel the need to support ourselves abundantly. We take the next step, and the next step, and the next step, thinking that we are fulfilling some checklist for life, and one day we wake up depressed. We wake up stressed out. We feel pressured and don’t know why. That is how you ruin your life.

You ruin your life by choosing the wrong person. What is it with our need to fast-track relationships? Why are we so enamored with the idea of first becoming somebody’s rather than somebodies? Trust me when I say that a love bred out of convenience, a love that blossoms from the need to sleep beside someone, a love that caters to our need for attention rather than passion, is a love that will not inspire you at 6am when you roll over and embrace it. Strive to discover foundational love, the kind of relationship that motivates you to be a better man or woman, the kind of intimacy that is rare rather than right there. “But I don’t want to be alone,” we often exclaim. Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself. Wait for it. Please, I urge you to wait for it, to fight for it, to make an effort for it if you have already found it, because it is the most beautiful thing your heart will experience.

You ruin your life by letting your past govern it. It is common for certain things in life to happen to you. There will be heartbreak, confusion, days where you feel like you aren’t special or purposeful. There are moments that will stay with you, words that will stick. You cannot let these define you – they were simply moments, they were simply words. If you allow for every negative event in your life to outline how you view yourself, you will view the world around you negatively.

You ruin your life when you compare yourself to others. The amount of Instagram followers you have does not decrease or increase your value. The amount of money in your bank account will not influence your compassion, your intelligence, or your happiness.

You ruin your life by desensitizing yourself. We are all afraid to say too much, to feel too deeply, to let people know what they mean to us. Caring is not synonymous with crazy. Expressing to someone how special they are to you will make you vulnerable. There is no denying that. However, that is nothing to be ashamed of. There is something breathtakingly beautiful in the moments of smaller magic that occur when you strip down and are honest with those who are important to you.

You ruin your life by tolerating it. At the end of the day you should be excited to be alive. When you settle for anything less than what you innately desire, you destroy the possibility that lives inside of you, and in that way you cheat both yourself and the world of your potential. We have to strive to do extraordinary work, we have to strive to find extraordinary love. Only then will we tap into an extraordinarily blissful life.

via Bianca Sparacino on ThoughtCatalog // image via Jenna Kutcher

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